Many of you know that I got my start in the professional world as a touring musician. I played concerts all over the country, opened for national recording artists and even performed shows in Europe. And no, you don’t know the name of my band because if you did I wouldn’t be here here today.
During this time I learned a valuable lesson, over and over again. No one, and I truly mean that, no one is as interested in my success as I am.
You see, in my time with the band when we worked hard and did all the things that know would build momentum in the music business, like writing and recording new material, promoting ourselves and the concerts we played, reaching out to record labels, and basically working our tails off. When we did these things consistently, invariably we would get noticed, and that’s usually the point where someone would come up to us and say “Hey kid, stick with me and I’ll take you to the top.”
At that point we would put our trust and faith into someone else assuming they were just as committed as we were. It’s at that point that we would stop working and doing all those things that built the momentum in the first place. Of course, you know what happened next. Things stopped moving forward and we would find ourselves back at square one.
Then we would start the cycle all over again, do all the things we were supposed to do to build our brand and create a buzz in the music business. And again, someone would come up to us and say- “You guys are great, stick with me and I’ll take you to the top.” And for some crazy reason, we would again put our trust and faith into an outsider with no real level of commitment and yet again all of our progress would and we would grind to a halt.
Maybe we just felt like that was the way things were supposed to happen, that someone would just wave a magic wand and our band would become huge? Maybe it’s easier to allow someone else to do the work? Maybe avoiding accountability was a defense mechanism so we could blame someone else if things didn’t work out? These are all things I’ve thought about over the years as I look back on that time.
Now granted I was only 21 years old but I still find it hard to believe that I would make that same mistake, almost the exact same way again and again. My first coach one shared with me that “Life will hand you the same lesson over and over again until you figure out a way to deal with it”
The lesson that I learned that has been extremely valuable for me in my business and in my life is that NO ONE, and I mean NO ONE is as interested or committed to my success as I am. And quite honestly why should they be?
Being committed and accountable to you own success doesn’t mean you aren’t willing to accept help from those around you and those that can support your journey. It just means that YOU get to own your own outcomes and YOU get to keep doing the things that you know will drive your own personal and professional momentum towards the goals you are moving towards.
This week I will as you:
Where have you placed your own success into the hands of others?
Where are you avoiding accountability or using someone or something as the excuse for your outcomes?
How will you shift your focus and take ownership of your own success this week?
What Quarter Turns will you apply to achieve the outcomes you are looking for?
Cheers to You and Taking Success Into Your Own Hands
One Quarter Turn at a Time
Thoughts for the week
You are the conductor or your own success train.- William Cranch Bond
Build your own dreams or someone else will hire you to build theirs. – Farrah Gray
Dreams don’t work unless YOU do. -Unknown
Never let success get to your head; never let failure get to your heart. -Anonymous
No one is as interested in your success as you are. -Coach Tim
Looking forward to our next connection